And so, to me, this idea of true belonging is a type of belonging that never requires us to be inauthentic or change who we are, but a type of belonging that demands who we are — that we be who we are — even when we jeopardize connection with other people, even when we have [...]
Human skin… the largest organ of our body, is both internal and external. It’s an interactive network providing us with a conduit for the physical, sensory and communicative transmission of data between our essential inside selves and our surrounding environment. ---------------------------------------- Yup... I like this metaphor better. Since a better network has little to do [...]
Vulnerability is not weakness. And that myth is profoundly dangerous. ------ Brené Brown ----------------------------------------- I've been looking at the "thick skin" metaphor and how that pertains to my take on the general topic of vulnerability. Googling quotes about having a thick skin gets a mix of classic stuff about the need for mental and emotional toughness [...]
It’s a small crowd No need to sing loud And a spotlight is shining on me The sound is just right I’m not tense or up-tight But though I’m feeling good I know could be A whole lot more Some of you here are close friends And I would like to commend you For [...]
“One of the greatest acts of courage is to be vulnerable with someone with whom we disagree” ------ Frances Kissling ----------------------------------- Skin, you gotta have skin It's the stuff that keeps your insides in You gotta have skin I couldn't find any reference to this song online. All I can find is the similar song by [...]
I’m one of “those people” I’m one of “them” I’m one of those “other” people Could you ever call me friend? I’ve got a whole lot of opinions You’re on the other end I've spent a lifetime defending them They do not easily bend It’s almost like I’m from another planet So much different from [...]
"Civility is claiming and caring for one’s identity, needs, and beliefs, without degrading someone else’s in the process.” ----- Tomas Spath and Cassandra Dahnke, Founders, Institute for Civility in Government -------------------------------- It's a normal weekday on the job and I'm waiting to pick up one of my regular passengers. There are no others on board and [...]
“It’s partly because we are neuro-biologically hardwired for belonging and connection. We’re hardwired to want it, and need it so much, that the first thing we do is sacrifice ourselves and who we are to achieve it.” —— Brené Brown ------------------------------------------------- I'm having breakfast with my housemates. Conversations ebb and flow... occasionally joyous, occasionally uncomfortable, occasionally [...]
I can feel it burn Smacking my lips And the caldron churns As I wiggle my hips Yea... it’ll make you move It’ll get you hot Like the kind of grove You just can’t stop Bubble and burp Burble and bop Simmer and slurp Slither and slop Slow-cookin’ Chili Sauce Slow-cookin’ Chili Sauce Slow-cookin’ Chili [...]
He was so lonely. Among all these people and while actually engaged in an interaction with a person looking straight at him… ----------------------------------------------- As I sat with my good friend in another part of the bar, I kept thinking of the man we'd just left... still talking to the young woman at the door of [...]