The Life of Brian (In the Now)

I love to journal by telling stories. What’s going on in the life of Brian, in the now. Whether it be from stuff that happens at work, while hanging out with friends or while working on other creative projects. Stuff happens that I may just feel a need to interrupt my usual memoir-writing activity, that is this blog’s primary function. I share those stories here.

2/22/18: Unconsciously Choosing Paradox (Part Six, Where Angels Fear to Tread #3)

Human skin… the largest organ of our body, is both internal and external. It’s an interactive network providing us with a conduit for the physical, sensory and communicative transmission of data between our essential inside selves and our surrounding environment. ---------------------------------------- Yup... I like this metaphor better. Since a better network has little to do [...]

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2/21/18: Unconsciously Choosing Paradox (Part Six, Where Angels Fear to Tread #2)

Vulnerability is not weakness. And that myth is profoundly dangerous. ------ Brené Brown ----------------------------------------- I've been looking at the "thick skin" metaphor and how that pertains to my take on the general topic of vulnerability. Googling quotes about having a thick skin gets a mix of classic stuff about the need for mental and emotional toughness [...]

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2/19/18: Unconsciously Choosing Paradox (Part Six, Where Angels Fear to Tread #1)

“One of the greatest acts of courage is to be vulnerable with someone with whom we disagree” ------ Frances Kissling ----------------------------------- Skin, you gotta have skin It's the stuff that keeps your insides in You gotta have skin I couldn't find any reference to this song online. All I can find is the similar song by [...]

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2/17/18: Unconsciously Choosing Paradox (Part Five, Disobedient Civility)

"Civility is claiming and caring for one’s identity, needs, and beliefs, without degrading someone else’s in the process.” ----- Tomas Spath and Cassandra Dahnke, Founders, Institute for Civility in Government -------------------------------- It's a normal weekday on the job and I'm waiting to pick up one of my regular passengers. There are no others on board and [...]

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2/16/18: Unconsciously Choosing Paradox (Part Four, Bringing it to the Table)

“It’s partly because we are neuro-biologically hardwired for belonging and connection. We’re hardwired to want it, and need it so much, that the first thing we do is sacrifice ourselves and who we are to achieve it.” —— Brené Brown ------------------------------------------------- I'm having breakfast with my housemates. Conversations ebb and flow... occasionally joyous, occasionally uncomfortable, occasionally [...]

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2/14/18: Unconsciously Choosing Paradox (Part three, Happy Feet, Missing the Beat)

He was so lonely. Among all these people and while actually engaged in an interaction with a person looking straight at him… ----------------------------------------------- As I sat with my good friend in another part of the bar, I kept thinking of the man we'd just left... still talking to the young woman at the door of [...]

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2/13/18: Unconsciously Choosing Paradox (Part two, That Lonely Feeling)

"Everyone knows that experience of being surrounded by people and feeling completely alone." —— Brené Brown ------------------------------------- I was at a live music venue with a few good friends when this man I barely know approached me and shook my hand. He said nothing. There was pretty loud music playing but the band (that I wanted [...]

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2/12/18: Unconsciously Choosing Paradox (Part one, Conscious Unconsciousness)

"I think our need to push away the word “paradox,” and the need to — our need for either/or, not “and,” is driven by our lack of capacity for vulnerability. It’s really hard to straddle the tension of yes/and. It’s really hard to straddle that, “Yes, I want to belong, I want to be a [...]

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1/5/18: Connection Infection (part four, Presence Present)

I checked into it and then had a plan for the next time I would interact with Luke. --------------------------------------------------------- Well... I thought I had a plan. I can't even remember what it was now but that doesn't matter. What matters is that I cared enough to be paying attention when an opportunity arose to make [...]

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1/3/18: Connection Infection (part three, Are We Not Bronies?)

For some reason, Luke was focusing on this one character and needing me to focus on the same thing. ------------------------------------------------------------ Of all the people with disabilities (and developmental disabilities in particular) I've worked with over the years, I've had the most difficulty finding a comfortable and/or successful way to interact with those who have autism. [...]

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